Also called Illusionary, Mirage Relations are relatively good when partners are attentive to each other and offer mutual sympathy. Empathy is the key element here to achieve goals and make the most of these partnerships. When the views and interests of mirage partners are overseen, you will most likely get issues and discussions over small and petty things. However, they will be quickly forgotten. These illusionary relations exist between the following types:
- INTp (ILI, Ni-Te) – ENFp (IEE, Ne-Fi)
- IEI (INFp, Ni-Fe) – ILE (ENTp, Ne-Ti)
- LII (INTj, Ti-Ne) – ESTj (LSE, Te-Si)
- EII (INFj, Fi-Ne) – ESFj (ESE, Fe-Si)
- ENFj (EIE, Fe-Ni) – ISFj (ESI, Fi-Se)
- ENTj (LIE, Te-Ni) – ISTj (LSI, Ti-Se)
- ISFp (SEI, Si-Fe) – ESTp (SLE, Se-Ti)
- ISTp (SLI, Si-Te) – ESFp (SEE, Se-Fi)
Mirage relations have a relaxing way of communication, filled with moral support and assistance for and from each other. When empathy is missing is when you will not be getting the best of these partners as a lack of understanding, motives, goals, and actions will get in the way of achievement.
O.B. Slinko, in the “The key to heart – Socionics,” offers a description that makes mirage partner seem snobby or a bit egocentric, the author says that a mirage partner: “demobilizes and softens you, resulting in a state of mental and physical relaxation. His speech is pleasing to you, but it is difficult to grasp its meaning.”
One can´t avoid imagine a Mirage partner as an unattainable creature. The author also says that “willful effort is required to maintain an active dialogue between mirage partners,” so make sure they are always on the same page, make sure there isn´t much room for random interpretations.
Clear, and to the point, Laima Stankevichyute writes in their work “Intertype relations” about Mirage Relations:
“Lacking sincerity, these relations become boring. An ethical partner accuses the logical partner in “logical egoism,” while logical partner accuses ethical partner in carelessness and frivolity.”
So, what positive outcome can come from these relations? V.V. Gulenko and A.V. Molodtsev do an outstanding job describing these “relations of relaxation” in their book “Introduction to Socionics.” They explain that these relations are comfortable for family life, but ineffective in everyday activity: “It feels comfortable to sit around, rest, and discuss extraneous issues with one’s mirage partner.”
So, we can safely assume that partners in Mirage relations perhaps treat each other as siblings, with ups and downs, caring for each other as much as they hassle and disturb one another, but at the end making sure things work, and work well for the sake of the group.
One will lead while ignoring the other, much like a sibling relationship. Illusionary partners will agree on how they interact with the world but not on the views they have of it; they are not good getting too close to each other, so make sure they have their own time and space at all times. Other than that, you will get a compromise relation at all times.
By: Dr. Graciela González Calderón-Psychologist
- Slinko, O.B. “The key to heart – Socionics” as quoted in https://www.the16types.info/vbulletin/content.php/85-Mirage-Relations
- Stankevichyute, Laima. “Intertype relations” as quoted in https://www.the16types.info/vbulletin/content.php/85-Mirage-Relations
- Gulenko, V.V. Molodtsev, A.V. “Introduction to socionics” as quoted in https://www.the16types.info/vbulletin/content.php/85-Mirage-Relations