Kindred Relations are comparative. Partners in these relations will have a similar role or function but will work opposite to each other’s chores. Also called Comparative Relations, these relations exist between the following types:
- ENFj (EIE, Fe-Ni) – ESFj (ESE, Fe-Si)
- ENTj (LIE, Te-Ni) – ESTj (LSE, Te-Si)
- INFj (EII, Fi-Ne) – ISFj (ESI, Fi-Ne)
- INTj (LII, Ti-Ne) – ISTj (LSI, Ti-Se)
- INFp (IEI, Ni-Fe) – INTp (ILI, Ni-Te)
- ISFp (SEi, Si-Fe) – ISTp (SLI, Si-Te)
- ENFp (IEE, Ne-Fi) – ENTp (ILE, Ne-Ti)
- ESFp (SEE, Se-Fe) – ESTp (SLE, Se-Ti)
One of the critical elements in Kindred Relations is the fact that these partners, having different creative functions, ideas, knowledge, and skills, will make up for each other graciously. Ekaterina Filatova better explains this in her book “Art of understanding yourself and others,” she says:
“Both partners perceive the world as the same due to having a base function as common. In cases where it comes to actual cooperation, these relations can seem not as fruitful. If partners have common interests, then they will take on the care for each other’s weakest functions.”
The previous explanation means that they may encounter issues here and there, of course. Still, they will strive and accomplish goals as long as they are seen as individuals and not forced to cooperate; however, they will do it as part of their nature anyways.
Kindred partners seek sanity when hard work is a stake; they keep each other company. They are alike in many matters, and they respect other person’s underlying attitudes, which are quite like their own, even if the details differ.
Eugene Gorenko and Vladimir Tolstikov, in “Nature of self,” explain that, though there is much resemblance, their aim is usually “tactful and polite with each other.” When it comes to internal differences, partners will have different points of view, that on occasions, may end up hurting each other’s weak functions. Therefore, always make sure that if you are managing kindred partners, they both share the same interests to avoid conflict a little too often.
Regarding frequent interactions, A.V. Bukalov and G. Boiko, mention in their book “Why Saddam Hussein made a mistake, or what is Socionics?” that in Kindred Relations partners seem to think similar and may understand each other very well. This understanding is because they enjoy discussing related topics and shared interests. We always appreciate this as part of their individuality and nothing more. The authors say: “How one acts is not how the other acts, but they cannot and do not know how to act otherwise.”
With Kindred partners, we need to work through any doubts or criticism with logic. People that form these relations can certainly go a long way, often striking up friendships, start dating, build families, and such. These are strong partnerships for sure, taking care of them should not be a hassle at all, as long as we respect them and appraise them separate from each other for who they are and can achieve as individuals.
Given time and space to work alone, these partners can admire one another and be useful for each other. Avoid making them compete against one another, and nothing beneficial can come from that but hurtful feelings and awkward interactions. Also, on these relations, avoid measuring partners with your standards, make time to understand their own in any case.
By: Dr. Graciela González Calderón-Psychologist
- Filatova, Ekaterina. “Art of understanding yourself and others” as quoted in https://www.the16types.info/vbulletin/content.php/88-Kindred-Relations
- Gorenko, Eugene. Tolstikov, Vladimir. “Nature of self” as quoted in https://www.the16types.info/vbulletin/content.php/88-Kindred-Relations
- Bukalov, A.V. Boiko, G. “Why Saddam Hussein made a mistake, or what is Socionics” as quoted in https://www.the16types.info/vbulletin/content.php/88-Kindred-Relations