Mirror Relations are quite a learning experience to anyone involved, whether it is as partners or as spectators. In these relations, we can see people admire and resemble each other’s capabilities and abilities. Partners in Mirror relations will seek to learn from each other, almost methodically. Discussions in these relations are peaceful, honest, and respectful. They do not worsen relations. You can find Mirror Relations between the following types:
- INFj (EII, Fi-Ne) – ENFp (IEE, Ne-Fi)
- INTj (LII, Ti-Ne) – ENTp (ILE, Ne-Ti)
- INFp (IEI, Ni-Fe) – ENFj (EIE, Fe-Ni)
- INTp (ILI, Ni-Te) – ENTj (LIE, Te-Ni)
- ISFj (ESI, Fi-Se) – ESFp (SEE, Se-Fi)
- ISTj (LSI, Ti-Se) – ESTp (SLE, Se-Ti)
- ISTp (SLI, Si-Te) – ESTj (LSE, Te-Si)
- ISFp (SEI, Si-Fe) – ESFj (ESE, Fe-Si)
Because partners understand each other so well, their mutual admiration helps them remain interested in one another. They will be empathic and help each other. But not everything is joy and peace, there are a few conflicts that may arise, and Laima Stankevichyute does quite and introduction to these in her work “Intertype relations,” she says:
“Partners are frequently attempting to teach and re-educate one another. When two ethical mirror types meet, they may feel at unease around each other and keep some distance. When two logical types meet, they may start a dispute or sit together in uncomfortable silence. These types of relations are much more pleasant when a third type from the same quadra is present who is dual to one partner and activator to the other.” What Stankevichyute suggests may sound a bit conflicting, but in reality, it is not at all an uncommon solution.
A.V. Bukalov and G. Boiko explain further in their work, “Why Saddam Hussein made a mistake, or what is Socionics?” :
“Having compatible subtypes is important in these relations. The situation is more favorable if partners are both of leading function subtype or both of creative function subtype.”They explain that leading functions subtypes are necessary to prompt each of them to yield the other to accommodate to their creative function; doing this little trick will avoid their desire to correct one another, thus preventing conflict.
One last thing to mention is the fact that these relations could be a bit cold, as they often lack passion and have the tendency to be a bit mechanic; V.V. Gulenko better explains this on his work. “Criteria of reciprocity,” where he tells us that because these relations tend to live by some kind of established order sometimes it might get a bit old and “rusty” sort of speak, Gulenko says:
“Transition to a new state of things is a rare occurrence that needs to be thought out and concluded. After this, the old system gets discarded, and a new one is accepted in its place. Mixed states and confusion between old and newly imposed order and agreements disturb mirror relations and undermine their fundamental quality – a tendency towards analysis.”
Given all these details, we can conclude that through Mirror Relations, we can experience positive outcomes in a wide array of projects as long as there is a set routine, concordance in admiration, set rules, and open disclosure of each other’ responsibilities and compromise. Partners in Mirror Relations can also learn a lot from each other, which makes them part of great teamwork that can resemble each others`abilities, which is always a plus.
By: Dr. Graciela González Calderón-Psychologist
- Stankevichyute, Laima. “Intertype relations” as quoted in https://www.the16types.info/vbulletin/content.php/87-Mirror-Relations
- Bukalov, A.V. Boiko, G. “Why Saddam Hussein made a mistake, or what is Socionics” https://www.the16types.info/vbulletin/content.php/87-Mirror-Relations
- V.V. Gulenko “Criteria of reciprocity” as quoted in https://www.the16types.info/vbulletin/content.php/87-Mirror-Relations