When it comes to semi dual relations, these need patience and time. These relationships will appear to flow miraculously at first. They may even make you think they will do so without much effort. Still, the truth is they are no programmed robots that will always act and feel the same. These are people and communication; healthy communication is always necessary. Semi-Duality relations, also known as partial or incomplete duality, exist between the following types:
- INTj (LII, Ti-Ne) – ENFj (EIE, Fe-Ni)
- ENTp (ILE, Ne-Ti) – ISTp (SLI, Si-Te)
- INFp (IEI, Ni-Fe) – ESFp (SEE, Se-Fi)
- INTp (ILI, Ni-Te) – ESTp (SLE, Se-Ti)
- ENTj (LIE, Te-Ni) – INFj (EII, Fi-Ne)
- ESFj (ESE, Fe-Si) – ISTj (LSI, Ti-Se)
- ISFj (ESI, Fi-Se) – ESTj (LSE, Te-Si)
- ISFp (SEI, Si-Fe) – ENFp (IEE, Ne-Fi)
“They need to surprise each other,” V.V Gulenko says, this author has an obvious description of how semi-duals behave:
“Semi-dual relations contribute to the preservation of one’s individuality. While they may consult with each other, each leads their affairs. Relations can be well managed and tend to self-correction”. Gulenko tells us to be patient and not force events, Dual and Semi dual relations with accommodating will work as long as we give them room to grow and breathe freely.
Gulenko, in his work “Criteria of reciprocity,” calls these relations “Cautious comfort,” and though the name can even sound a bit romantic, it’s far from what it may imply. He says that partners may be afraid to get closer as they fear that by doing so, comfort will dissipate. This insight is quite a breathtaking view of the author; he explains these relations flow pleasantly for some time, but there is an influx point where these partners don’t know how to proceed next because they may avoid discussions.
“At times, partners privately take note of some unpleasant moments in the behavior of each other. However, these unpleasant moments and hurdles are often not discussed openly and not brought up to the attention of the partner”. Says Gulenko.
Socionics.com has a description that includes interesting facts and details that the other authors failed to cover, especially with Semi-Duality partners. In essence, they say that while usually, semi duality partners have no problems in understanding each other, this only happens when things are set up “in the paper,” so some type of contract needs to be involved. The website claims the following:
“Semi-Duals, especially if they are different in gender, can show interest in each other…however, when they feel like they are halfway to complete understanding, one of them usually does something that ruins all established harmony.”
Last but not least, Laima Stankevichyute in “Intertype relations” gives us a head-up regarding misunderstanding Semi-duals, saying that though “lack of understanding that may occur very suddenly and unpredictably,” reconciliation is usually quick and easy. What we need to know is that mishaps can occur suddenly for no apparent reason and will make both partners feel unsure of how to proceed further, and may blame one another. To play it safe, maybe mediators could come in handy when these altercations take place.
By: Dr. Graciela González Calderón-Psychologist
- Descriptions on Relationship Types by Socionics.com. Accessed on November 17th, 2019 at 6:01 pm via http://www.socionics.com/rel/sdl.htm
- Gulenko, V.V. V.V. Gulenko “Criteria of reciprocity” quoted in English in https://www.the16types.info/vbulletin/content.php/89-Semi-2
- Stankevichyute, Laima. “Intertype relations” quoted in English in https://www.the16types.info/vbulletin/content.php/89-Semi-2
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